Can VS Will

These 2 words are quite powerful words. If you think they are the same, you are wrong. Both of them are distinct. You see:
Can = Questions my ability
Will = Questions my willingness to give

Still cant get the picture?
lets say. when you want to propose to your beloved, would you say "can you marry me ?" or "will you marry me?" .. haha, of course the latter ya

to be honest, we guys tend to take these 2 words seriously. Furthermore, these 2 words have ripple effects. If we are feeling offended, we tend to hurt you back ladies, which is very bad :( . so please understand us, sometimes we guys do not want to do a certain thing because of the way people ask.

So, please, please do not use that "CAN" word so often. We tend to feel that you are questioning our abilities to perform. Especially when you are asking for help in our area of expertise! This is because of the can word, we tend to pretend that we are weak at everything when we could just settle the problem in seconds. Even hokkien has it, "Tia liao pun bo song". Men are always different from women. What we want is trust from you ladies. So, trust us with what we do please.

And, use the "WILL" word. It provides us a satiated feeling that you are really in need of us. Furthermore, when you use the will word, we are more willing to help you. In addition, we could even moved our asses before you open your mouth =)

It's not that i am writing this to play the blame game. But girls have to get this kind of treatment back too, so
GUYS, when you talk to a girl, remember, more WILL, less CAN!